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Oct 6th, 2004, 03:03 PM
2004 Vegnews vegan wedding feature. Read about eight spectacular vegan weddings, HERE. (http://vegnews.com/wedding1.html)

Nov 26th, 2004, 07:49 PM
Getting married, maybe the Wedding Woes (http://www.vegsource.com/jo/qa/qawed.htm) article from Joanne Stepaniak could be of some wee help. :)

I'm sure there was an article in a previous uk vegan society mag, and not that long ago. If anyone keeps their vegan magazines, please have a look, and post the article if poss. ;)

Jan 22nd, 2005, 04:04 PM
You can also read the 2005 Vegnews vegan wedding feature HERE. (http://www.vegnews.com/wedding_2005.html) .

May 26th, 2005, 04:35 PM
Speaking of vegan weddings, does anyone have an idea for a vegan wedding cake or how to order one?

May 26th, 2005, 04:50 PM
Interesting link. :)

I don't know where exactly you'd get a vegan cake made up (there are caterers who'll do it though as well as people who specialise in vegan cakes), but there are recipies for vegan fruit cake and sponges that you could make yourself. The sponges often aren't as large as 'normal' sponge (unless I'm just a bad cook), but you can sandwich up several layers into one big cake before icing it. That butter icing filling is simple to make with soya margarine and tastes just as good. :)

My partner and I have been trying to plan a wedding for well over a year, but the vegan thing is going to be an issue with a lot of folk (I'm NOT compromising with that though! They can like it or bugger off), plus the fact I absolutely HATE being the centre of attention and don't want a large wedding. All hell would let loose if we cut anyone from the party though, so I'm trying to think of a way round it. :(

I bet that sounds really selfish, but I don't want a bunch of people I either don't know or don't like being there for our wedding when I know they're only there for a free meal and the excuse for a p*ss up! I have a couple of family members who have literally walked straight past my Mum and me (and definately not by accident), they don't care about us one way or the other but they'd still go mental if they didn't get a wedding invite!

OK, end of rant...... :o

May 26th, 2005, 09:41 PM
Hi Evilfluffbunny,

I have the exact same problem. The thought of a big wedding freaks me out. The vegan thing is difficult too. What we are going to do is have a destination wedding, and then have a reception(vegan) when we return. We still have to pick the island and arrange the whole thing, but I just couldn't stand the idea of the traditional wedding. Just an idea.

May 26th, 2005, 10:18 PM
Speaking of vegan weddings, does anyone have an idea for a vegan wedding cake or how to order one?

It would be helpful if you post where you are (State/City/Country) so that an appropriate suggestion can be made.

May 27th, 2005, 03:25 AM
Hey, EFB
How about running off--just the two of you--and doing the deed. Then, just a small party for the closest friends and family, who bring their own pot-luck vegan dishes. You, guys could then make a small vegan cake or two. What do you think? I am partial to this because that is how I did it, except for a professional vegan cake from NY city.

May 27th, 2005, 04:28 PM
Thanks for the advice Franny & Spo, I've already suggested that though (I fancied going to Ireland or something), but my fiance' isn't keen on the idea as he thinks his Mum would be devastated (especially now that she's been diagnosed with an incurable illness) and his Grandpa is very old and would also want to see it. :(

I thought that would have been the perfect compromise as well.....!

The only other thing I can think of is having a registry office wedding with everyone invited, then a close family/friends only ceremony afterwards. I don't really want a party at all to be honest! You can now get married in one of the underground vaults in Edinburgh, so that's always an idea too - as far as I remember you could only fit about 20 people maximum in there. :D

May 30th, 2005, 02:48 AM
I hate being the center of attention too! I understand you not wanteing people you don't know or like there. I understand your wedding issues. This is what I did: The wedding was small and simple: no wedding party or anything. The only people invited to the wedding were parents, siblings, and grandparents. My husband's one aunt was mad about it, but oh well. Then his sister threw a fit because her boyfriend wasn't invited--he's not FAMILY!! I ended up letting her bring him, and he ended up not being able to come anyway! Everyone else (all other relatives, friends, coworkers) were invited to the reception. That way you're not really the center of attention because they have other people there to talk to and stuff. We had a buffet, so there was vegan food for me, and animal for everyone else. I don't even know what we all had to eat--I just know there was a nice vegan pasta for me! As for the wedding cake, It was 3 tiered, but each was on it's own seperate tray. The one level was vegan (for me), and they cut the animal cake for everyone else. My husband is an animal-eater, so we couldn't have a completely vegan wedding, so we comprimised. It was funny--everyone thought the whole cake was vegan and people kept telling me how good it was considering there was no animal in it! :)

May 30th, 2005, 11:59 AM
Thanks for the advice Veganbear. :)

The only people invited to the wedding were parents, siblings, and grandparents. My husband's one aunt was mad about it, but oh well. Then his sister threw a fit because her boyfriend wasn't invited--he's not FAMILY!!

This is the main problem really, I only really want parents & Grandparents there, but all hell would let loose if I invited Grandparents but not aunties & uncles, then if I invite them, I have to invite all my cousins (and their partners and children etc). How can you invite everyone though? It just gets totally out of hand!

I also have my partner's family to contend with as they're assuming that all their family friends and extended family in Canada etc are all going to be invited over too. Aaargh! That's why I thought going away to get married then just having a party would be a good compromise, but I think everyone's expecting the whole massive white wedding thing.

Oh well, I'll just have to be unpopular for a while! :(

Jul 5th, 2005, 09:06 PM
As far as a vegan wedding is concerned once me and spjessop can afford to get married in a few years (spjessop is another member of this forum and my boyf for 3 years, I've been veggie for 10yrs for ethical reasons and he turned veggie about a yr ago after gut problems and learning about the awful methods involved in obtaining meat and how unhealthy it is,and we both recently turned vegan) are going to have a small registry office wedding (so we can't fit many people in!) and are having vegan catering. If people don't like it they can b*gger off-I've been to enough weddings where all I can eat is salad and baguette, this is OUR wedding, OUR special day and we're having it exactly how we want. Sounds harsh but you can't please everyone and it *is* your wedding after all! As far as we're concerned if people are going to kick up a fuss about the vegan food, they can not come. If they care enough about us they'll manage.

Jul 9th, 2005, 03:01 AM
wish I saw that before I got married about a month ago

Aug 31st, 2005, 02:42 AM
It would be helpful if you post where you are (State/City/Country) so that an appropriate suggestion can be made.

Agh! Sorry! I'm from Cincinnati, Ohio. USA. My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage before and am hoping for an all vegan wedding. Thanks for any help or suggestions.

Aug 31st, 2005, 08:46 AM
my boyfriend and i are planning on marrying in a year or so and i've spoken 2 my mum about having a veggie/vegan spread and no meat. she was really off with me and said, "i'm paying for half so i want some say- its not fair to not have meat- what about all the guests" (she's normally really liberal- i got a shock)

anyway i've spoken to my bf and we both want a veggie/vegan wedding with a half veggie/half vegan wedding cake for both of us (he's veggie). i live in england so wouldn't even know where to begin and there's the added problem of our entire meat eating families, i don't want 2 cut them out of the loop but i can't stand the thought of MEAT at my wedding!

sorry 2 put a damper on things peeps! :p x

Aug 31st, 2005, 08:56 AM
I'm not planning to get married anytime soon, but when I do, it's certainly going to be a vegan wedding, no matter what my family says! The wedding is all about ME AND MY HUSBAND! Not the guests! Surely they can go one meal without animal carcass???

Aug 31st, 2005, 09:12 AM
my bf and i hope to get married once we get back to australia..

hes an omni..i dont think ill have converted him by then..(ill try tho!)
so in guess to be fair well have half and half.. ill put my foot down about the cake, though. ;)

Nov 3rd, 2005, 04:35 AM
I have tired all the usual suspects - Mooshoes, Pangea, Vegan Essentials, etc....Does anyone have any suggestions on where to find dyeable shoes for a wedding? I need ivory shoes to match my wedding gown and I cannot find any without leather.

Any suggestions or lead will be appreciated!

Nov 3rd, 2005, 04:48 AM

Nov 3rd, 2005, 05:34 AM
if i am not mistaken i have seen them at bakers. i don't even know if bakers still is in business- haven't been shopping in a mall for so long.

i would imagine the shoes are vegan, though.

Nov 3rd, 2005, 07:24 AM
There was a thread on here for v.expensive vegan shoes including weding shoes but blowed if I can find it again!!! :eek: They were over the 100 mark tho'.

Nov 3rd, 2005, 06:06 PM
Hmmm... have you tried places like Payless Shoes or Famous Footwear? You never know what you'll find there.

For what it's worth, I didn't buy new shoes for my wedding. People would ask me about it and I just couldn't be bothered with that detail. My dress was long enough that my shoes were hardly ever seen. Plus, I figured that if anyone noticed my shoes didn't match my outfit perfectly then, well, they were probably paying too much attention to the wrong details. ;) As it is, nobody noticed my shoes at all that day.

Nov 4th, 2005, 03:19 AM
Payless for sure. I saw dyeable satin shoes there just 2 months ago. Most shoes that can be dyed are made of cloth - I can't believe the shoe companies feel compelled to add leather!

(By the way, Litsea didn't have to worry about anyone looking at her feet during her wedding. I was wearing orthopedic shoes (hey, I added butterfly pins) with my bridesmaid gown and all eyes were glued to my recently removed bunions. If you can't find shoes for your wedding then I highly recommend putting ugly shoes on one of your bridesmaids.) :)

Nov 4th, 2005, 03:56 AM
Thanks for all the great suggestions! I wouldn't necessarily buy new shoes because I know that no one will look at them, but absolutely every pair of shoes I own is black, so I figured a new pair might be nice. :-) The problem with all the dyeable shoes I've seen is, while the upper is cloth, the sole is leather. Ugh. And they advertise like that is a good thing! "GENUINE LEATHER SOLE!" Well, it least it makes it easy for me to cross off my list.

I checked out Payless - great suggestion! There are a couple choices, and they are pretty inexpensive. Thank you!

Nov 4th, 2005, 04:21 PM
Awesome! I'm glad Payless will work out for you. Have you seen Amelie? I enjoyed that movie. :)

Diane, I hadn't thought about that with my wedding... and it's probably the case of why nobody noticed my shoes. ;)