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cobweb
Jun 29th, 2007, 05:56 PM
good for you, Ginger. I too had been drinking vast amounts of alcohol for a long time before I quit completely. I don't miss those hangovers! :) .

Ginger
Jun 30th, 2007, 01:44 PM
Hi Cobweb, do you mind me asking if you stopped suddenly or was it a gradual thing? Do you find it difficult to stay away from now?

cobweb
Jun 30th, 2007, 01:59 PM
Hi, i had cut down a bit from every single night to weekends only, then I got VERY drunk at a friend's house and made a decision not to put myself in that place ever again, so i stopped there and then. Since then I have had a glass of wine a couple of times and it was horrible (believe me! :eek: ) so for well over a year haven't had a drop.

Sometimes i get an urge so powerful, i can 'see' drink, smell it, taste it - but it soon passes. I make 'cocktails' now out of fruits such as mangoes and strawberries, or as a 'naughty' drink occasionally i have a 'Roy Rogers' - just coke with pomegranite juice and ice ;) .

I haven't made a fool of myself for a long time and it feels good, plus my liver thanks me for it daily :) .

Ginger
Jun 30th, 2007, 07:09 PM
That's great Cobweb, very inspiring to me. I can almost hear my liver thanking me right now :D I'm just worried that if I say I'm not going to drink anymore I will feel under a lot of pressure.

cobweb
Jun 30th, 2007, 09:55 PM
I know what you mean, I really do, Ginger. Why don't you just drink at the weekends and give your body time to clean out during the week? ;) . I'd probably still be doing that but my husband has a half-sister who is a recovering alcoholic and it has turned him very anti-drink so it just doesn't feel right in our home now anyway.

cedarblue
Jul 1st, 2007, 02:53 PM
i have no experience of hard drinking, just the usual 'youthful' drinking when younger, now i don't drink at all and haven't for about 25yrs.

i have heard on the news etc that it can be just, if not more, dangerous for your body to binge at weekends and have nothing the rest of the time.

again, i have no experience of heavy drinking really, so these are just polite observations...:)

cobweb
Jul 1st, 2007, 03:05 PM
true, but any binge drinking is bad, moderation is key but if you 'depend' on alcohol then that is hard :o

frank language
Jul 2nd, 2007, 02:49 PM
That's great Cobweb, very inspiring to me. I can almost hear my liver thanking me right now :D I'm just worried that if I say I'm not going to drink anymore I will feel under a lot of pressure.
Well, you don't need to say, "I'm not going to drinik again...ever;" just say, "I'm not going to drink today." Today is all you need to do; that's worked for me for 18 years now.

Ginger
Jul 4th, 2007, 07:23 PM
Wow Frank Language, thanks for that :)

owen
Jul 9th, 2007, 08:24 AM
Well, you don't need to say, "I'm not going to drinik again...ever;" just say, "I'm not going to drink today." Today is all you need to do; that's worked for me for 18 years now.

Works that way for me too Frank. Congrats on 18 years.


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Antonia
Jul 19th, 2007, 03:05 PM
I've been away from vegan forum for a while. After about a year of veganism I maybe didn't feel I needed the forum for support so much as I had become quite settled with my new lifestyle. However, it's great to come back and see this thread still alive.

I didn't touch alcohol for about a year after starting this thread, but the past couple of months I have had a couple of drinks. It was an interesting experience. After not having alcohol in my system for so long I was very aware of its effects. Just the slightest drop made me feel drunk and tired. Wine brought on heyfever symptoms and when reading Skinny Bitch I discovered that the reason could be an additive in it. Just as cutting out dairy greatly reduced my allergies cutting out alcohol also helped.

So all in all, I'm quite happy with not drinking, and trying it again was reassuring because I didn't like it all that much anyway.

I didn't notice any benefits from cutting it out, but I did notice negative effects of consuming it again.

It's also nice not worring about if alcoholic drinks are vegetarian/vegan.

Pilaf
Sep 18th, 2007, 12:06 PM
I'm still here, and I'm still supportive of any decision you or others might make to try to live more responsibly. I'm happy to hear you've had great success! That's wonderful. I wish you the best, and you know you can come to these forums for continued support.

boatsteem1
Sep 18th, 2007, 01:44 PM
Sounds great!

I stopped drinking when I was 19.

Alcohol has tons of bad effects. Listening to friends who are sober alcoholics have even strenghtened my opinion even more. Some have lived with alcohol abuse for 40 years or more. I'm really glad I took the decision to stop drinking.

herbwormwood
Sep 18th, 2007, 02:03 PM
I am still not drinking alcohol and have no desire to drink.
However, I see most social activities seem to focus on drinking either at parties or in pubs.
What do people do to socialise which does not involve drinking, when not with family and partners?
I do volunteeer work, go to the gym and spend time with teetotal friends. What else is there in the social sphere?

Gorilla
Sep 18th, 2007, 02:47 PM
i've recently started a new job where there seems to be quite a culture of drinking, and i've been under a bit of pressure to go and get drunk with my colleagues. i haven't come right out and said i don't drink (partly because i haven't decided i won't ever drink again, i just choose not to for the time being) but they go to the pub quite a lot and it's important to me to socialise with them, so i've just been going along and drinking soft drinks. not so much fun being the only sober one in a large group, but better than getting drunk and maudlin anyway.

a couple of my friends are teetotal; we hang out at each others' houses, go out for food, go to the cinema, go for walks together... stuff like that.

a lot of VF meets seem to revolve around pubs but they're still fun if you're not drunk :D

cobweb
Sep 18th, 2007, 09:18 PM
I am still not drinking alcohol and have no desire to drink.
However, I see most social activities seem to focus on drinking either at parties or in pubs.
What do people do to socialise which does not involve drinking, when not with family and partners?
I do volunteeer work, go to the gym and spend time with teetotal friends. What else is there in the social sphere?


I have this problem - especially being vegan , teetotal and now having given up caffeinated drinks, i don't think people know what to do with me! :D

Pisces
Sep 18th, 2007, 09:48 PM
I'm teetotal by choice (I don't like the smell of most alcoholic beverages anyway--and smell is one of my senses that I trust most :D ). However, if others choose to drink, I don't mind (to each their own). My choice on that has usually been respected.

Pilaf
Sep 30th, 2007, 08:47 AM
Well, when I was a bit younger, as a Straight Edge kid, it was easy for me to socialize because our idea of socializing was local gigs. Underground punk music...that entire atmosphere was fun. Now that I'm a little older, most of the kids who were teetotal with me have moved on in their lives and most have moved away from abstinence. Now I am a gamer who plays video games socially at LAN parties and online, and I am involving myself with positive, goal oriented people such as Food Not Bombs, recycling efforts and the cuddle party culture where drinking is not part of the norm.

emzy1985
Jun 17th, 2008, 07:17 PM
Hi everyone!

I made the descision last night that I was going to go straight edge for the following reasons:

1) I spent a whole week off my face on drugs and alcohol and it was the worst thing ever.....the come down yesterday that is.

2) I feel like an insensitive peace of shit when I wake up the next morning and the woman I love tells me I was a complete and toatl bitch to her, which of course I remember nothing about.

3) I want kids some day and I want to be alive long enough to see them grow up.

4) I was able to drink almost 20 cans of beer in a day by the end...which cannot be good. I usually drank at least four cans of beer a day anyway.

5) All the drugs, smoking and beer was fucking with my mental health.

So guys please help me out here...I'm kinda finding it okish but it is so tempting to go outside and smoke a fag and have a beer. I know I'm not gonna but encouragement is key.

vegcurry
Jun 17th, 2008, 07:24 PM
You can do it Emzy, you're a strong woman who takes no shit. So, take no shit :)

emmapresley
Jun 17th, 2008, 07:41 PM
absolutely!

i reckon sometimes it's easier to be all or nothing..maybe it depends on what kind of person you are. but your reasons cannot be faulted..so you have my support in whatever way you need it. association breaking is a good thing to do apparently??

you go guuurrrr! :heart:

vava
Jun 17th, 2008, 07:47 PM
Emzy - encouragement is not the key - determination is - determination to keep your lover should be enough to sway you when you feel yourself wavering if she is the one. I wish you well with it. It is cool to be clean.:bigsmile:

emzy1985
Jun 17th, 2008, 08:15 PM
Thanks for your posts guys and those are some wise words there vavavegan.

I'll keep you posted on my progress! :)

whalespace
Jun 17th, 2008, 09:34 PM
1.Alcohol is a useful and expensive solvent...
2.Quit using other folks' medicine.
3.Wherever the craving or suggestion might come from, you get to live in your body....don't let others **** in your blood. [pardon my anglo saxon]....er poison your blood.
4. Maybe get wrecked on exercise....plenty of dopamine [which you might be missing] and endorphins. You still get dizzy, with thumping heart, and head, and get to feel battered the next day...only you get stronger and fitter until you're out of time.
5. See drunken people, and consider alternatives.

philfox
Jun 17th, 2008, 09:56 PM
Good luck emzy :)

I've been considering the amount of alcohol I consume. It's scared me. So I decided this afternoon to go teetotal. For at least a year. I can't do things in moderation, addictive personality like emma p ;) so giving up is the only way for me. At least at this point in life. Plus I have 4 stone excess weight to shift...I'm sure it will help with that too :D