I would say "don't ever give in" and probably "get a haircut and take a shower".
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I would say "don't ever give in" and probably "get a haircut and take a shower".
Advice to Leedsveg when he's 5 years old (and 16 will be too late):
Don't complain about pains in your knees because there's really nothing wrong with them. You'll be in hospital (for "observation") with your legs in plaster for a year and when you come out, you'll be psychologically damaged for life (but you won't realise that fact for many years). :(
lv
:( So wasn't there anything wrong at all, lv? Seems a weird overreaction, even in those days.
I am curious too leeds....:confused:
Hi Slack and harpy
Suspected osteomyelitis. I was laid up in hospital for a year, both legs in plaster attached to weights hanging over the end of the bed. By the end of a year's "observation" and without any definite diagnosis, my parents had had enough and said they were taking me out so that I could go on a family holiday. I never returned to the hospital, nor did I finish up in a wheelchair in my teens as was predicted. My poor dad had to carry me a fair bit on holiday because I'd slightly forgotten how to walk. Nearly 60 years later, I'm looking forward to doing a couple of half marathons this year and possibly a full marathon next year. It's not just me. Recently my older sister Stella revealed that she felt neglected as a child because she was often sent to her grandparents when my parents were visiting me (which was very often).
lv
I wonder what it is about baby boomers - probably the strict adherence to authority figures that screwed us all up. Advice to 16 year old me - kill yourself now it isn't worth it.
:( what's up Vava? Pm me if I can help at all.
Sounds grim lv. At least your parents got to visit a lot - I've read that wasn't always the case
Aww Harpy so sweet thank you v much - nothing immediately up but just when I look at my life as a whole the happiness is very much outweighed by the slog and also I don't think that I have contributed anything to mankind as a whole. Just doesn't seem much point in the whole process really.
OIC - I guess we all have days when things look like that. Personally I think the idea that things need to have a "point" is probably a by-product of the way human minds work - other animals just seem to get on with it.
But in your case you make life a lot jollier and more interesting for the people you come into contact with, so perhaps that's the "point" :)
1. Don't waste time on the internet.
2. Get out into the world; have fun.
3. Well done for already being vegan.
4. Fanfarlo is an amazing band, go look them up.
5. Save money, don't waste it.
6. People aren't worth it.
7. Stay away from people named callum.
8. You can do anything and you're going to save the world. Keep going, and smile.
:D
1. Your parents are right. Your dreams of doing music and drama are worthless - you're not that good and even if you were it wouldn't matter. Suck it up and get a job on the tills in the supermarket. You can and will be happy with an ordinary life like everybody else.
2. You are gay. That's fine. Life will get better after high-school. Don't try to 'make it work' with men. It won't, and you'll only make yourself and those men unhappy.
3. For the love of all that's holy, stop wearing those ridiculous clothes.
4. Get glasses. If you don't you will seriously damage your eyes and bitterly regret it.
5. You are enough. You don't need to impress anyone, or pretend to be someone you're not.
6. Watch Buffy. You'll love it.
1) Don't be so hard on yourself.
2) The only shoes that you have to fill are your own.
3) Things are going to get hard, thats OK. No one ever said life would be easy.
4) There are 2 people you should not trust (I & M). GET THEM OUT OF YOUR FAMILIES LIVES NOW - They will cause irrevocable damage if you dont.
5) Treat you friends like your friends and your enemies like your enemies.
6) Start reading the Harry Potter books.
7) Grow a pair, get out the house and get a job.
Im not going to say "Go Vegan Now", because I think thats a given.
I can't give any good advice to my 16 year old self because I'm only 15 lol.
Well, you could, BB - just in case you forget what you're intending to do next year ;)
Don't give so much of yourself to mean people. They will only stab you in the back 100 times and make you miserable.
Don't burn yourself out with selfdestructive things. You will live to see the consequences, and you will regret it. The true meaning of life and happiness will not be found at the bottom of the bottle, no matter how hard you look.
Stay in school, Deal with life, suck it up. There isn't any other way that is better.
Stick to the people that share your values in life, who want to make positive changes in the world. Stick to what you believe in.
1. You are not fat so don't start what will eventually be an eating disorder.
2. Go vegan now, not just vegetarian.
3. Look at yourself in the mirror! 'Goth' does not look good on you, make an effort with what you look like!'
4. Don't get tattooed when you're 17, you'll only have to fork out £500 to have it removed when you're 25.
1. Forget about always trying to be the good daughter who never rocks the boat, and turn vegan.
2. If a boy tells you that you are cute and he likes you, it is highly unlikely that he is only trying to make fun of you - so, relax, and enjoy your teenage years.
3. Of course you should go to the university, and it is worthwhile to fight for your right to get good education.
4. It's ok to respect your parents, but they are not always right.
5. Trust your instincts.
1. DON'T drink so much, it is not necessary to spend every waking moment of your teenage years paralytic.
2. DON'T send a note to your best friend during an English lesson telling her you are bored and want to join her for a cigarette at lunchtime.
3. DON'T have your hair cut like Kim Wilde - keep it long. What looks good in the 80's will not look good during any other decade!
I think about this all the time, the what if's... the what if I would have done this or that... and as much pain as I would take away had I changed that path, I am scared I would have missed out on a few things that have made my life what it is.
If I had to change I would have told myself:
1. Focus on your art and history- becoming an art history major and making my life as an artist.
2. I would tell myself to tell everyone what my stepfather did to me.
3. I would take the love I have from animals and take the steps to become a veggie head sooner.
And most of all I would tell myself to look for my hubby. He is my soul mate!
1. Finish college or you'll be an office slave the rest of your life
2. Start saving your money NOW
3. Do NOT apply for that credit card in a couple years
4. Go vegan
5. Quit being so shy
Given I'm 15 now, and 16 in August, I guess I can't give advice in retrospect... But I can still have a go at advice. ;)
1. Don't fuck up school. The next two years are important.
2. Good luck figuring out if you're actually gay or not.
3. Socialise, stop being so shy! Messing up is preferable to boxing yourself up...
4. I know you probably won't take this one, but try to recover from your eating disorder. Accept it's serious.
Now let's see if I actually follow these! :D
You're shy now, but in ten years time you wont be, and it will make all the difference (you can't hurry this up i'm afraid)
Stand by what you believe and become vegan! you are not alone, and you'll end up doing it eventually anyway. There is nothing wrong with upsetting people by doing this, worse things could happen (mainly to animals).
Kill yourself.
Glad you didn't, yoshi. Hope you're ok?
1. Don't care so much about 'fitting in' and impressing other people. Be your own person first!
2. The things you do now DO effect your health in the not so distant future!
3. Be frugal and learn to save money.
4. Focus more on your education than the social aspects of high school
5. Be homeschooled if possible!
6. Go to college out of state
7. Read about health and spirituality now!
To my sixteen year old self...
its ok to break the rules sometimes.
It's ok to be vulnerable, imperfect, and need others
Work hard at what you love and do not let others discourage you. But dont make what you love to do your identity.
laugh.
Realize this too shall pass.
Don't have unprotected sex.
Those guys you are dating? Idiots.
I'm not so far removed from sixteen, but here it goes:
-Don't spend so much time worrying
-Your Tourette Syndrome won't stop you from doing anything you are willing to work for.
-I turned out okay anyway, so just trust yourself to learn from anything bad that happens. Even if you do it to yourself.
-Your dad doesn't hate you. He just doesn't see how his behavior affects you.
And I kind of need to give some advice to the current me (so I'll remove my current self from my current self for a minute):
-You aren't cut out for a theatre major, but you do want a theatre career. Just make it work. Learn Bio, practice theatre.
- Go to the gym
- Write your grandmother more letters.
-Your dad doesn't hate you. He just doesn't see how his behavior affects you.
-You have a good man by your side. Don't see his flexibility as weakness. You are both growing independently and it's only making your relationship stronger! How is that possibly bad?
1) What do you mean you've just given up on vegetarianism because you were drunk and wanted chicken nuggets? GO VEGAN!
2) Stop bunking off and study you nit wit
3) Make time for, and cherish the people you love, they won't be around when you are 21 and writing this post (your first post on this vegan site, I will add)
4) Stop being a b*tch to your boyfriend, you will realise how much he means to you in a couple of years (luckily it's not too late, so fear not)
5) I mean it about studying. Get out of bed.
10 Things I would tell a 16 year old me!
1: Do not dwell on thoughts that do not exist
2: Stop over medicating and look more into diet
3: Focus on school and yourself, don't worry about relationships
4: Don't worry about not being part of any "social group" in school
5: Don't do drugs...not even weed, period!
6: Your not a drinker but don't ever start, in the future you will know you never will!
7: Don't pick a certain thing you want to do in life because what could be new news today, but old news tomorrow!
8: Be more active
9: Don't dwell on the past and don't live in the future, stay in the present
10: Don't ever let others crush your spirit