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Re: Advice to a 16 year old 'you'?
I want to say that:
1. become a vegan! now!
2. do not skip school or date that boy, he is such a jerk and awful person, you would meet the man of your dream 2 years later, so why waste time on this guy?
yea, my teenage eyars were full of my stupid decisions and actions, so if time can turn back I would like to be a more wise person and study harder in school
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Having already posted my advice, I must add that when I look back on my life, and especially where I was at certain ages, there are so many things that I'd like hypothetically to have not gone through. I think I'd have wanted to make better decisiions, and a heads up on which boys to avoid would have been cool.
But then it occurs to me that any change I might make, no matter how small, could vastly alter who I am today and where I am today.
Sure it would have been nice not to have my heart broken, struggled with quitting smoking or had so many god-awful jobs, but if I took that out of my life I wouldn't be half as tough as I am now. And I might not have met the love of my life. As nice as it would be to avoid the emotional complexes that have come from a really rough few years, I don't think I'd trade it for the world.
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^ Here, here! You sound like a real trooper Lacey, and that's something to be very proud of. :thumbsup:
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Aw. Thank you. Just stuff you learn from being alive, getting screwed over and refusing to give up. I've been blessed with a mother that gives excellent advice. :)
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No worries. :D That's great that your mother gives you excellent advice. :)
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LaceytheCrazy
But then it occurs to me that any change I might make, no matter how small, could vastly alter who I am today and where I am today.
At the end of the day, I couldn't agree more with this. Sometimes I look back on the last 10 years and cringe at the way I behaved/the things I did/decisions I made. But I also acknowledge how different things might be now if I hadn't made those "mistakes" - for both myself and others :)
I've learnt and grown from my mistakes. Not always, but then even weaknesses can be a strength sometimes (i.e. in developing a better understanding of others, being able to emphasise with and help others). If that makes any sense...
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^ I kind of agree.
But I'd already gone through some of the toughest times of my life at that stage. And I didn't tell myself to not do things, that in retrospect were wrong or stupid, because I know I learnt from them. I only sort of gave mysellf tips about things I should do, that would make things a bit easier.
But it is very true, if you were change minor things about yourself in the past, it's possible you would be a very different person today, and not necessarily for the better.
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^^Exactly. And furthermore, I suppose most people don't really think about it from this point of view, but it's also important to note how much of an impact you probably made on other people's lives, just because of the way yours was. I think maybe we are supposed to meet certain people, and have certain experiences with them (no matter how seemingly insignificant) because of the way that those things will affect who they are as well.
Butterfly effect kind of a thing, y'know?
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- Don't worry, life doesn't end at 20. In fact, the world you live in is just a make-believe, miserable parody of real life. Your life will greatly improve during your twenties, and get even better in your thirties.
- The staunch atheism and proud meat-consumption that you cling to so dearly will both fail you. I know this must sound scandalous, so I won't say any more. Just trust me that you'll eventually be happier than you've ever been. When you feel the change coming, embrace it.
- Get dreads. You always liked them, and you'll regret not getting them when you're bald! In fact go nuts, get earrings, body piercings, become a Goth, whatever you like. Just don't get tattoos for at least 10 years.
- Explore your creative side more, and get back to computer graphics and drawing. You'll love it one day, and the more you do it now, the better you'll be at it at my age.
- Stop listening to all that guitar music - this grunge thing isn't really you, and deep down, you know it. Go and buy a Massive Attack CD, find out about something called Goa Trance, and look out for a CD by someone called "Shpongle" when it comes out in a year or two. You'll love it.
- That fiery, impulsive passion you have that makes you tightly wound and good in arguments? That's called anxiety. It's not as cool as you think. Relax a bit.
- You have a decent amount of integrity, and a strong determination to forge your own path in life. You should feel really good about that, and know that it'll put you in a much better boat than a lot of other people.
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I read this a couple of days ago but thinking of my list of advice made me very sad and depressed about me at 16 and thinking about what I could have done but then I realised I have done lots of stuff I'm proud of so heres my message to me
1) You will marry a wonderful man who will truly love you and be your best friend, will love all the weird things about you.
2) You will leave home and live somewhere safe and loving before you marry.
3) You will find good jobs that you enjoy and have the courage to leave when you stop enjoying them
4) You will get lots of counselling which will help you see you had a horrible childhood, were innocent and will be much stronger.
5) You will go to lots of festivals, sing in a band and do fun stuff.
6) You will still be friends with people you know now.
7) You will forgive and become friends with your sister.
8) Both parents will lose any power you think they have.
9) You will be happy, and still more than a little weird but thats a good thing.
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That's a lot of predictions, what if the act of finding that out changes the outcome?
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I'm not 16 yet, so I wont bother giving myself advice! :P
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Maybe you could use other people's advices to themselves :)
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Embrace your weirdness
Be vegan
Realize that Nicole is the warmest, kindest, strangest, most in-tune person to you and treat her as such!
Don't let your parents hinder you
Devote yourself more to what you care about and don't feel like a lack of money should stand in the way
Stand up for your beliefs and tell your parents you don't agree with "training" horses and you won't take part in doing so any longer!
Be more adventurous
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1) You are beautiful and people care about you.
2) Smile more, find delight in the things that delight you.
3) For goodness sake, put down the horrible food, you know it's not good for you.
4) Go back to eating veggie, remember, you LIKED it when you tried it.
5) Laugh. Please laugh more.
6) Don't fall for one person for ever, think about why you do things.
7) The person you love the most is right under your fingertips.
I was horribly depressed when I was 16, horrible issues with body-image, eating, and just a general wreck of the world.
I'd love to say that I'm past that, but geez, it's been a long journey and it aint over yet!
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I love your number 7 Torio! :)
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I love your number 7 Torio! :)
Thanks Sandra, I met a friend online 11 years ago, 11 years later, one long-term relationship and broken engagement (that's me) and one losing touch with the other because of stupidity (that's him)...We're together, albeit long-distance, but incredibly incredibly happy.
If I could tell myself then that falling in love with him was an okay thing to do, I totally would've, instead of tearing myself up about it while engaged!
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I would say: To be a vegan you're gonna have to eat some vegetables! :)
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^ :lol: What are vegetables? Are they those evil things that grow in the ground? :p
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Well seeing as I'm 16 now... :-)
Things I'm currently working on-
Learn more about cooking and nutrition. Doing well on this one, so just continue!
Don't allow grandfather to walk all over me. He is a disgusting, child m*lesting SOB and I do NOT have to interact with him.
Continue to nurture the few but healthy relationships I d have.
Start new relationships with more (mature) people my age. We'll have to see how the cards play on this one.
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Well it wasn't all that long ago since I'm 19, but I think all I'd have to say is - Stay the hell away from Ryan, cutting him out your life completely is the best decision you could ever make, appreciate Jak - there isn't any better, this is fact, don't doubt it!.
Other than that I don't have any regrets or anything I would have advised myself on because through lots of mistakes i've made and stuff, things have always worked out better in the end or at least taught me life lessons so i wouldnt change them. And I would like to say hold onto people like old friends but at the time when i felt them slipping away i did hold on as hard as i could and they slipped away anyway, so maybe a bit of advice is to let people go easier since it'l save a lot of heartbreak for me! =]
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Be nice.
(advice to 16 year old me)
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- become vegan
- don't waste your time with Jordan
- be straight with people, don't sugar coat everything. feelings will get hurt wethere you mean to or not
- don't do drugs
- if you eat well and excercise you will feel so much better about yourself
- you are not fat or worthless
- calm down before talking to mom
- don't let her bribe you into going to church
- mom's not a bad person, she just doesn't know how to communicate or admit that her way might not be right
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well seeing as i'm 16 now... :-)
don't allow grandfather to walk all over me. He is a disgusting, child m*lesting sob and i do not have to interact with him.
((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
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At 16 I had moved out of home and had a house and stuff and was working and things were a lot more ok in my head than they are now, so I can't think of anyhing. If this thread was 'to yourself aged 5' or 'yourself aged 21' I may have more to say!although I may say, stay skinny, losing weight's a lot harder than maintaining it!
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I'd say - treat every day as if it is your last and try to be a good person. You never know how long your life will be.
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1) Go vegan! You'll feel better in so many ways.
2) Break up with Charles and get as far away from him as possible.
3) See a psychiatrist.
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Forget about 'A' Levels and planning to go to university and apply to do a craft apprenticeship instead. That is the only significant thing I would do if I could turn the clock back the best part of 30 years.
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Sarabi
4. I love you.
I think that's so lovely!
Here are mine -
- Spend more time with your Grandad - he'll be gone in just a couple years and you'll miss him so much more than you thought possible...
- While you can coast through school/first year of uni, if you really study you'll make yourself proud and do even better
- Don't waste time striving for your parents' approval - do what you know is right for you and you'll do great!
- Learn how to be sensible with money, it'll save a lot of stress later on.
- Have more respect than to hang around waiting for Alec to realise that he likes you and be over his ex... By the time he does, it'll be too late and you'll just open yourself up to immense heartache
- Join okcupid, you'll meet the love of your life through it!
- Stay in touch with Solayr, Sarah and Ashley - they really are true friends!
- Do some research, and become vegan, it's easy in Edinburgh and there are no excuses!!!
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I like you Charley333! :thumbsup: :)
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sandra
I like you Charley333! :thumbsup: :)
Awww thanks! What a nice welcome to the world of veganforum posting :)
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My advice to myself: "hi, how are you? keep being Vegan!"
(I just turned 16.)
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Well I'm 16 right now so... Erm.... -Walks away awkwardly-
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Advice to me: 'Dude...chill the fuck out...seriously...'
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Advice to me: 'Dude...chill the fuck out...seriously...'
Same... I got so worked up over everything at 16.
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I was pretty relaxed at 16 :rolleyes: I suppose I'd tell myself
-Why I need to become vegan
-Not to buy the Civic I liked downtown cuz the transmissions just going to fall out of her :(
-And Screw the Fairmont and just move out west! I'll love it, and I didn't want to be a dishwasher anyhow :p
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Love yourself, forgive yourself & don't be so hard on yourself either. Everyone's scared. Things will get better when you're older, even if you can't imagine it now. Don't expect so much of yourself, try to be yourself as often as you can and do whatever you think might be fun. Most importantly, trust your feelings, they are right!
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1. If your pissing off the good guys then your doing something wrong.
2. If your pissing off the bad guys then your doing something right.
3. If your not pissing off anyone then your doing nothing at all.
4. Those who don't ask don't get (entirely contrary to what m'mum'n'dad insisted was actualy the case ...)
5. It hurts less to stay up and fighting than it does to lie down and get kicked in the head.
6. The ratio of ways that anything worthwhile cannot or can be done is roughly infinity to one.
7. Being able to talk the hind legs off a donkey is a lifeskill and a highly profitable one!
8. The price of lying, without getting caught, is having to remember every word you ever said.
9. When your head and your heart don't agree then follow your heart not your head.
10. A real man does not make people feel frightened. A real man makes people feel safe.
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Don't wait 11 years to dye your hair pink!